Self-confrontation on the counselor’s part can be described as continual self-examination and restoration of one’s self in accordance to God’s standards before proceeding to serve others through counseling. Although a counselor is to be adequately educated and skilled for this role, such training does not take precedence or supersede a counselor’s humble dependence on God, His Word, and His Spirit in counseling others. This is important because a person who counsels should keep in mind that they are not higher than those they counsel (John 13:14-16) but they are to serve with an attitude of humility (Acts 20:19) and give glory and honor to God (1 Co. 10:31).
A person is first called to examine their relationship with God and the extent to which they exhibit their love to and for Him (Matt. 22:37). Jesus challenges people, especially those who first focus on the issues of others, to first confront themselves over their own personal issues and then those of others (Matt.7:3-5). A person is secondly called to examine their relationship with others and the extent to which they express love to and with them (Matt. 22:39). A counselor may be inclined to pass judgment on the person seeking counsel (Matt. 7:1-2) and think more highly of themselves (James 4:6). Hence, a counselor should continually self-examine and restore themselves in accordance to God’s standards.
There are several ways in which a counselor may self-examine themselves. In regards to God’s Word, they should examine the extent to which they are studying, meditating, memorizing, and increasing in their love for His Word. Regarding prayer, a counselor should examine the extent to which they are setting and maintaining a prayer schedule with God as well as becoming more passionate in doing so. Additionally, a counselor should examine their relationships with others by reviewing the manner they relate with their family members. They should also review the manner in which they relate with their closest neighbors and friends. Furthermore, a person should review how they relate to others within the church and ministry, as well as those whom they evangelize. Hence, adherence to such a practice may empower a counselor to avoid injury to their ministry and self integrity (Prov. 10:9). Additionally, they would be avoiding the presentation of hypocrisy as God’s servants in counsel (Rom. 12:9).
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